How to make your child studious?

Among the biggest challenges that parents face today is the ability to make their children have self-responsibility in the production and assimilation of knowledge throughout life.

Well, it is known that to be a successful adult, self-development of cognitive potential is essential. All parents have this awareness, but not all of them achieve effective results in the behavior and commitment of their children in this regard.

In this way, the first experiences and the model that your child will acquire in the first years of school life are very important. Therefore, those who have had good experiences may be more successful.

On the other hand, if the individual grows up in an environment with negative experiences, it is possible that his development will be shaken.¬†So, one can eternally drag a deficiency and lack of credibility in themselves, in addition to harming the ability and success in the area of ‚Äč‚Äčknowledge.¬†And that’s what I’m going to deal with here with you.

How is your child behaving today?

Does he resist any commitment or accomplishment of school tasks? Do you do activities slowly and seek resources with difficulty? Does it fool you by trying to present a completed part, while leaving others to be desired? Do you cry and rehearse a victim role, placing the responsibility on others in the face of failure?

Believe me: there is a possibility of reversing this process.¬†However, this depends a lot on your commitment and self-discipline in your behavior with your child, after all, if the change doesn’t start with you, nothing can change.

What to do?

The main goal is to create self-responsibility. For that to happen, you need to show him the benefits he can get in his current and future life by developing skills.

Ask him questions about how he feels about being uncommitted to his development. Ask about the consequences of this in relation to colleagues and teachers. Deepen questions that make you reflect on this context.

Prepare yourself, as you may encounter strong emotions, such as crying and anger. Welcome him. In addition, you may also want to avoid this conversation so as not to face the pain. Welcome your child even more, listen to him and propose changes.

Immediately afterwards, make a proposal for a first and small advance in attitude. Set a task and deadline together with it so that it is achievable. Emphasize that you believe he is capable and will root for your success. Deposit a motivational expectation and approach possibilities of feelings that will generate when reaching this goal.

Within this context, for sure, he will shine his eyes and, perhaps, rehearse a smile. At this time, show him that imagination already allows moments of happiness. Always be there to support.

the step by step

Then, send an encouraging message during this period, leaving a note in your room or via WhatsApp, such as: ‚ÄúI believe in you!‚ÄĚ, ‚ÄúYou can do it!‚Ä̬†and ‚ÄúI’m rooting for you!‚ÄĚ.

After the deadline, if it has no effect, try again and keep encouraging and believing in your potential. If so, explore the feelings and emotions generated by your achievement. Show him how rewarding the effort to achieve some goal and growth is.

Take a few more steps until he can get into the habit of taking responsibility for himself.¬†Always value your effort and your ability.¬†This is the secret to conquering your child’s autonomy, given the responsibility of his/her development.

Vibrate with your child’s achievements, explore feelings of joy and happiness.¬†Thus, he will understand that the emotions and feelings of his achievements make his development possible.

the subtle mistake

Never give your child toys or other rewards for becoming a studious student.¬†It is addictive and he will never understand the responsibility he has to take care of his own life.¬†Gifting means he’s pleasing you and not himself.

What does self-responsibility promote?

In addition to positive feelings and the release of pleasure hormones, self-responsibility promotes the elevation of self-esteem, self-confidence, provides positive interpersonal relationships, admiration from colleagues and teachers, as well as prosperity in the future. This you must point out to your child and bear fruit with gratitude today and always.

It’s in your hands

When I mentioned that it is solely up to you, that your child matures in the sense of developing self-responsibility, it is true! As I said, it depends first of all on you, to believe, act and obtain the results you want in this process. So be ready for change, which requires a dose of patience, empathy, and persistence.

The effort to deal with the pain of suffering is countless times greater than the effort to develop and obtain new results in life. The first is exhausting and the second is rewarding, rewarding and effective.

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