Lately, the forms of relationships have been questioned. Divorces and separations aren’t as shocking as they used to be. Virginity and prostitution are not taboo. Exchanges of couples and liberal relationships are becoming more and more frequent.
However, in a solid society (before the 1960s) relationships were more stable. There was the classic formation of the family: father, mother, and children. Then, the latter would grow up and have their own children, thus renewing the current system of the new generations. The core of the traditional bourgeois family was guaranteed, as well as the transmission of its heritage and moral values.
However, about 60 years ago, the contraceptive pill began to be used and women began to have more power over their bodies. In that sense, she no longer had too many children and spent more time working outside the home.
Social values began to be questioned by the many changes that have taken place since then. The hippie movement, the Vietnam War, the sociocultural revolutions, rock and disco music, May 1968, feminist movements strengthened, cinema, television, the man on the moon and the Cold War are just a few examples.
the human standard
It is true that before, relationships were more hypocritical, as they tried to fit into a single pattern that governed society. In reality, human behavior is motivated by the pursuit of pleasure and the avoidance of unpleasure. Therefore, sexual energy, when stimulated, becomes very powerful.
Thus, the well-cared-for body will receive attention, praise, acceptance, recognition, and approval from the other, who is always examined and evaluating whether or not it fits the imposed norms.
Currently, the market and society associate subjective values with aesthetic values. In this way, external beauty is nothing more than the direct reflection of the existence of a corresponding internal beauty. Well-turned, firm and defined muscles end up “representing” an inherent quality of being.
In this sense, the association made between caring for the body and human sexuality causes people to have an excess of autoeroticism, narcissism, individualism, competitiveness, sensuality, and hedonism.
The new forms of relationship
Currently, there is no longer an “obligation” of exclusivity for monogamous relationships. People are more independent and can form their bonds however they see fit. Open relationships, trial, and polyamory are gaining ground.
There is certain freedom for people to form the kind of relationship they want. Religions and customs are no longer as important as they used to be. Sex is no longer seen as exclusively geared towards procreation and the formation of traditional families. People relate to each other for a variety of reasons these days.
The “new” forms of relationship can be homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, or pansexual. What should be very clear is how this should be agreed upon between the parties involved.
By the way, what is a relationship? What is expected? What is the consensually established limit? When will you be more sexual or effective? However, there must be clarity so that no one feels frustrated or is deceived. Otherwise, this is violence and abuse.
As the popular saying goes: the deal is not expensive. Everything must be discussed and clarified, always in a mature way so that there is no jealousy and suffering. The parties need to be involved in an adult and constructive way so that everyone is happy, whether in two, three, four or even more. Invent your own relationship, from the traditional to the liberal.